Exploring Sadness
We have been talking about exploring our emotions so that we can work to gain a better sense of self esteem and confidence. Today we are going to focus on sadness. Before starting this post I would like to preface this information by saying that all emotions are not bad. It is how we cope with these feelings that can be negative. If you feel sad then there is probably a reason, it is important to feeling the feeling but it is also important to let it go. If we hold on to these feelings it can have a negative impact upon our lives.
Sadness can be a very uncomfortable emotion. When we are sad we tend to reflect more and think about the significance of something that hasn’t turned out the way we want it to. Or it may be that we have lost someone or something. When we are sad we seek solitude and when alone it is easy to begin to play what I call the “woulda, shoulda, coulda” game. This just means that we keep trying to rethink our decisions or events to come up with a better solution. The problem with this mindset is that we can’t go back and change things. Living this way keeps us focused in the past and not on what is happening now or even in the future. How can we move forward if we are facing backwards?
Being alone can be helpful. It can help you work out the significance, or maybe even insignificance, of your loss and can help you make peace. Spending some time in solitude can be good because you don’t have to force yourself to pretend to be anything other then what you truly are. Once you are feeling stronger it is important to open up and let friends or family members in to share what you are going through. It is very important, when you are ready, to eventually find peace and let the feelings of sadness go.
If you find that your feelings of sadness are not going away or are getting stronger it may be necessary that you seek assistance from a therapist or a mental health professional, such as a psychiatrist or psychiatric facility. There is no shame in having to seek this type of support to make peace.
It is also important to not stay in solitude for too long. Being alone for too long of a period of time can fuel those feelings of sadness and keep you from the peace that you desire.
I would like to end this post with a quote from Elenor Roosevelt: “Yesterday is history, tomorrow is mystery, today is gift.” Please cherish your days and make them the best you possibly can.
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